Let Me Introduce Myself!

My name is Sherry.   I'm a wine drinking, coffee snob, chocolate connesuirre, bike riding, yoga loving, liver of life that has been gone from blog land far too long!

Life happened!   Nothing earth shaking, just busy living it.  Ive had some health issues, I've gotten older (more on that in a bit), some transitions in friendships (left some, gained some) and just trying to find a happier balance in my days.  

This whole getting older thing is not for the faint of heart.  As much as I'd like to believe I'm 25 (ok. 45 is more realistic!), my aching knees, age spots and menopausal belly remind me daily that I'm two months away from 60 and far far closer to retirement age that my 45 yr old living brain wants to admit.   When the hell did I get old!   Shit!

Oh sure....I'm still riding 20 mile distances on my bike...I just do it now with assistance from Tylenol Arthritis and Biofreeze!  I still teach yoga, but I leave the pretzel moves to my younger crowd.

And lets talk about sleep!  I can't get enough of it!!  WTH!

Life....not for the faint of heart...but if you have a faint heart...they got pills for ya! 😉

Twenty Twenty Two

It's a frigid North Dakota Day...-19 this morning.   I'm on my couch, sipping a hot cup of coffee and reflecting on 2021, anticipating 2022.

To say that 2021 was a fantastic year would be on overstatement, yet it wasn't horrible either.  Living through another year of Covid was less than desirable but I made lemonade out of lemons wherever possible. 

I want a mantra or word  that will help me focus on 2022.  I've picked transforming.   Why?

Because I feel like a catapillar transforming in to a butterfly.   Everything around me is changing...rapidly...and I feel that my best self is evolving...transforming...on a daily basis.  I have the next 365 days to truly live life ...on my terms...no apologies

 I do not view this as being selfish or narcissistic.   I view my mantra as being strong, focused, active and determined.   In order to be any good to anyone, one must be happy with oneself.

My priority is Me, my health and my well being.  My diet, exercise and peace of mind will be my focus   Transformation will be my goal.  I will pull upon the support of family and friends willing to support my mantra.  Those unwilling to support me have chosen their status in my journey. 

I have the next 365 days to evolve ...transform.....from catapillar to butterfly. 

Let the journey begin. 

#believe #faith #transforming #lifejourney #improvedme  #strongerme #determined #soulsong

When To Give Up

We all have that job, friendship, relationship that is a struggle.  We give it everything we have, pour our soul in to it to make it work. Heartaches, miscommunications, doubt, trust, respect, are ebb and flow.  Nothing is 100% perfect at all times.  The best we can hope for is 50/50 most of the time.  But when do you know when to throw in the towel and walk away?  

Is it the tears?  The constant battle of trust/mistrust, valued versus disrespected?

At what point do you accept that the friendship/relationship/job is flawed....recognize it for what it is ...and just deal with it.  I mean, once you know what (who) you're dealing with, you can handle everything....right?

In theory....yes...but we all hit a breaking point.  We try and deal with a boss or supervisor that just.does.not.get it!  They're bi-polar, inconsistent, narcissistic and would rather berate you than to give acknowledgement. 

 Or the longtime friend that is constantly sucking the life from you ...constantly telling you their woes...and gives you nothing in return when you're in a time of need.

Perhaps its a spouse or significant other that doesn't participate in the relationship (monetary, domestic or emotional)

At what point...do you say...Enough?

Two-way Street

So maybe I am a bit neurotic.  Some may call me demanding, scared, controlling.  Pick an adjective and more than likely my name has been linked to it at some point in time.  I don't mind.  I normally dont give a flying F what people think of me, at least those on my outer radar or circle.  

What I do mind is lack of respect through lack of communication; or more accurately, the lack of communication.

In today's society, there is a plethora of communication avenues, more than there have ever been.  Yet, we seem so disconnected.  I don't expect a lot from people.  Quite frankly, I've lowered my expectations so much so that I'm rarely surprised or disappointed by others actions.  By the way, how sad is that?

But is acknowledgement too much to ask?

If I send a text wishing someone a good day, I  would hope that I'm worth the 10 seconds it takes to respond with a simple "thank you " "you too" or the very least a smiley emoji.

What really frosts my flakes is repeated ghosting or non responses to my text messages, calls or emails.  I dont get all up in people's business (it's not my style).  But if I am taking the time out of my day to share something with someone, the very Ieast the other person can do is respond.  And when the words "I was busy," are uttered, my brain hears you aren't important".  

When social invitations that are extended are not accepted or reciprocated, generally those invitations become less and less, then they become nonexistent; So be it with unacknowledged calls, texts or emails. 

Communication is a two way street, not a one way.